December 2, 2019

CN: In-depth discussion of the usage and purpose of slurs and the common defenses for using slurs; discussion of racism, sexism, anti-gay bias, and classism. 
 

Warning: There will be a couple of slurs written out in full in this article. They are written this way to maintain clarity in a purely educational piece. I made a point to limit how many slurs I used and to avoid using any slurs that would be particularly egregious for a person with my set of privileges to use.  

“You shouldn’t say that word.” 
 

At some point in our lives, we have all had the experience of someone telling us that a word...

November 5, 2019

CN: discussion of 45, Brock turner, Kavanaugh, sexual assault, erasure of Native American history, racism, ableism, poverty, the manifestations of oppression. Mention of sexism, genocide, police corruption, and rape culture. 
 

Have you ever thought something like, Why am I so frustrated that this guy on the internet who I’ve never met doesn’t think that sexism exists? Why didn’t he listen to me when I told him about the time someone was sexist to me? Did I not communicate clearly enough?
 

The existence of power imbalances in our relationships between us and the people we work with, our friends...

July 14, 2019

CN: reference to abuse of power, toxic work environments, and physical threats or sexual assault from authority figures. 
 

What would happen if you, an employee, walked into your boss’s office unannounced, interrupted their phone conversation, and gave them instructions on how they were to proceed with their work? What if you told your boss that their clothes are a violation of the dress code? What would happen if you told your boss that their work quality was unacceptable and that they needed to pack their things and leave the office immediately?
 

It’s hard to imagine doing those things, righ...

June 23, 2019

I’ve compiled a list of actions to take in response to the recent news of the concentration camps for immigrants. If you’re here just for the list of resources and don’t need any background info, skip past the intro straight to the first heading, “First Step is to Pick Your Next Step”.

CN: concentration camps, cruelty towards immigrants, cruelty towards children, government corruption, mention of Japanese-American internment camps, reference to the holocaust
 

Note: Many articles linked in this post have extensive, detailed descriptions of the conditions of the camps. They are disturbing and the...

April 20, 2019

CN: General discussion of the experience of having a chronic illness, reference to ableism and mental illness 
 

Have you ever dealt with a chronic illness and struggled to explain to your healthy friends why you just can’t go out with them anymore? Have you ever heard someone say, “I don’t have the spoons for that,” and wondered what they were talking about? 
 

Simply put, spoons are a unit of measurement for resources. When someone references how many spoons they have, they are referring to their level of energy. The concept of using spoons to talk about resources is used primarily by people w...

March 22, 2019

CN: mental health crisis’, mental health management; brief mention of a variety of mental health based issues and abuse.


The fifth and final installment of Lucy Merriman’s guide to offering mental health support when you yourself are not a trained mental health worker, is possibly the most universally helpful of all the parts. It includes some extremely useful problem solving techniques, basic guidelines to finding the info you need to help you move forward, and an amazing list of mental health related media that you should check out regardless of whether you are the one offering help or the o...

March 8, 2019

Alternate title: How to use money wisely when you despise capitalism because your last meal was some dandelion greens you picked and some cold cuts you brought home from a wedding reception.
 

I loved Elizabeth’s ability to discuss serious topics with biting humor and compassion in her previous guest post so much that she wrote me another! This one had me nodding along in agreement and saying YES THAT out loud through the whole piece. This guest post offers finance managing advice based in self-compassion in a world that advocates budgeting exclusively based on self-denial. 

CN: extensive d...

January 12, 2019

This week’s guest post is Part 4 in a five-part series that looks at how to fill the gaps in our current mental health care system on an individual basis. Lucy Merriman has been guiding us through information about mental health crisis hotlines, basic skills needed to offer support to a person in crisis, and in-depth information about how to guide someone to the other side of whatever they are going through. These posts contain some seriously valuable information, and whether your friend is in a full-blown crisis, or they’re just having a bad day, these tools are excellent for anyone who wants...

January 1, 2019

This week’s guest post is Part 3 in a five-part series that looks at how to fill the gaps in our current mental health care system on an individual basis. It includes a lot of really valuable information about how to help someone work through an emotionally upsetting time. Whether your friend is in a full-blown crisis, or they’re just having a bad day, these tools are excellent for anyone who wants to be a better source of support. 

 

CN: mental health crisis’, mental health management, emotional content
 

Welcome to Part 3 of our five-part series dealing with the mental-health crisis in Americ...

December 25, 2018

This week’s guest post is Part 2 in a series that looks at the gaps in our current mental health care system and provides information on how to fill those gaps on an individual basis. Today’s post covers the preparation needed to skillfully offer support to a friend if you don’t have the resources to become a trained crisis worker but still want tools to help your friend when in a crisis. 

 

CN: discussion of suicide, suicide ideation and planning, mental health crises, abuse; brief mentions substance use, and professional intervention.

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Kella Hanna-Wayne

Creator of Yopp!

 

Kella is disabled, cis, white, bisexual, an agnostic quaker, a feminist, and a social justice mage who works as a freelance writer and blogger. She sports an impressive resume of health problems and mental illnesses, including Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (EDS), Celiac's disease, and depression.

 

She writes about anyone who is hurting and needs help in this world, but specializes in education on topics like feminism, racism, ableism, and transphobia; creative non-fiction about disability and mental illness; and poetry on abuse and recovery.


In her spare time, Kella organizes and DJ's an argentine tango dancing event, bakes gluten free masterpieces, sings loudly along with pop music, and makes cat noises. Kella has won the internet several times with her writing and hopes to make as much of a social impact as possible on people new or just wading in, to social justice.