April 28, 2020

When social-distancing first started, I figured, besides my anxiety about the virus itself, my life wouldn't change a huge amount and the transition would probably be easy for me. My work is already remote, my financial situation is stable, and my partner and I are pretty used to co-existing in our apartment for long periods of time. 

Almost immediately, I found that if I didn't work hard to use my systems and tools meant to support my mental health, my functionality would quickly deteriorate. I frequently felt like I wasn't okay and also that I had no business feeling that way.

After some ref...

April 10, 2020

CN: Extensive discussion of the mental and financial impact of Covid19, mention of existing oppressive systems. 

I tend to have a pretty hard time during a national or global crisis. My primary method of deprogramming my anxiety that has been my baseline for as long as I can remember has been teaching myself that the external causes of that perpetual state of fear are long gone and I’m safe now. When something happens that genuinely decreases my safety, it’s impossible to keep my anxiety from reverting to its normal habits, in an attempt to protect me. It’s very hard to tell myself that I’m s...

April 1, 2020

A note before today's guest post: Today's article was submitted and written before the Covid 19 crisis reached the US. At this moment, all medical health professionals are maxed out on what they are giving to the public to keep us safe, and we are deeply grateful to them for the risks they are taking and sacrifices they are making daily. This advice, as most things on this blog are, focuses on looking at longterm overarching problems that take time to solve. I fully support everything Amy is advocating for in this article, and I recognize that with the current state of the world, it's not yet...

January 25, 2020

CN: extensive discussion of the experience of being in an abusive relationship, discussion of physical abuse and the painful process of recovery after abuse, mention of sexual abuse. 


Being able to recognize that you are being abused, while the abuse is still happening, is mind-bogglingly difficult. I say mind-boggling because even though dozens of people trying to tell me that my relationship was abusive was completely ineffective for me, it’s still my first instinct when someone’s partner exhibits abusive behaviors to try to tell them that. I know that this extremely straight-forward tactic...

December 28, 2019

CN: extensive discussion of the dynamics, healing process, and emotional experience of abuse. General discussion of PTSD and trauma responses. This post may encourage trauma processing. Read it at your own pace!

I have a large number of friends who have been through at least one kind of abuse and I’ve noticed that if someone has gone through the process of recognizing that something that happened to them was abusive at least once, it becomes much more important to them to evaluate future behaviors as potentially abusive. 

It can be really difficult to tell, especially if you have PTSD and some o...

October 19, 2019


CN: Explicit descriptions and in depth discussion of chronic pain, abuse, medical neglect, gaslighting, and oppression through poverty. Discussion of sexual assault, trauma, mental and illness. Mention of genitals.
 

There is a disconnect between the experience of a patient and the experience of a medical professional, one that worsens if the patient’s illness is chronic or not easily explained. As more and more stories of medical neglect as a result of marginalization are brought to light, I hope that we can collectively reduce that disconnect and bring understanding and accommodation of marg...

September 22, 2019

CN: in depth discussion of christian culture and religious institutions, othering and neglect of marginalized groups, stigmatization of mental illness, abuse of power. 

One of the things I love about the Voices section of this blog is that it creates an opportunity to share guest writers’ life experiences that are so incredibly different from my own. I can research a topic, break it down, explain it to you, but I can’t tell you what it’s like to live it unless someone who has, tells me their story first. That is why as a non-religious person, I’m so grateful to have today’s guest post to expa...

August 24, 2019

CN: graphic description of self-harm; discussion of suicide, teen homelessness, homophobia, religious opposition to homosexuality, familial rejection, and mental illness.
 

Every openly LGBTQ+ person has a coming-out story. I grew up in an incredibly liberal town where bisexuality or any kind of sexual fluidity was common enough that I encountered very little resistance when I came out, which is why I haven’t written much about my own experience regarding sexual orientation on this blog. The process of coming-out can create both a sense of self-empowerment and an intense vulnerability and fear...

June 17, 2019

CN: brief mention of difficult life circumstances including abuse & trauma, general discussion of mental illness.
 

About a month ago, I was dinking around twitter when I saw the hashtag #DearMeTenYearsAgo. Woah. Where was I 10 years ago? 
 

When I first saw this hashtag, I was about to turn 30, which is a big deal on its own, but 10 years before, the lead up to my 20th birthday had also been a big turning point in my life. Things were feeling good and stable for the first time, maybe ever, I had a great birthday party with my good friends, I had hopes for the future. 
 

But then my lease ended a...

May 10, 2019

CN: chronic illness, police brutality, racism, mental illness, medical neglect, forced stay at mental institution. 
 

Note: This blog post heavily references a specific article that goes into far more detail of the above topics than this one does, in addition to a number of other heavy topics such as sexual assault, addiction, and domestic abuse. The article referenced does not include a content note.

Three or four years ago, I somehow came across an article that had a tremendous impact on me, on my activism, and on my understanding of myself, for years to come. 

 

“Sick Woman Theory” by Johann...

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Kella Hanna-Wayne

Creator of Yopp!

 

Kella is disabled, cis, white, bisexual, an agnostic quaker, a feminist, and a social justice mage who works as a freelance writer and blogger. She sports an impressive resume of health problems and mental illnesses, including Ehlers Danlos Syndrome (EDS), Celiac's disease, and depression.

 

She writes about anyone who is hurting and needs help in this world, but specializes in education on topics like feminism, racism, ableism, and transphobia; creative non-fiction about disability and mental illness; and poetry on abuse and recovery.


In her spare time, Kella organizes and DJ's an argentine tango dancing event, bakes gluten free masterpieces, sings loudly along with pop music, and makes cat noises. Kella has won the internet several times with her writing and hopes to make as much of a social impact as possible on people new or just wading in, to social justice.