Hiding Behind “Good Intentions”: Why Good Intent Does Not Erase Oppressive Impact

CN: general discussion of oppressive social dynamics, brief discussion of misgendering We’re all familiar with the people who tell you outright that they hold hateful opinions towards oppressed groups. But for every blatantly malicious bigot, there are 10 people who “meant well” or “didn’t mean it like that” or “had good intentions” when they said or did something that actually had a harmful effect on a member of an oppressed group. You have probably been …Read More

Power Dynamics Part 2: Privilege and Power

CN: discussion of 45, Brock turner, Kavanaugh, sexual assault, erasure of Native American history, racism, ableism, poverty, the manifestations of oppression. Mention of sexism, genocide, police corruption, and rape culture. Have you ever thought something like, Why am I so frustrated that this guy on the internet who I’ve never met doesn’t think that sexism exists? Why didn’t he listen to me when I told him about the time someone was sexist to me? Did …Read More

Why I Argue with People on the Internet

CN: general discussion of oppression and silencing of marginalized people I argue with people on the internet a lot. It’s a hobby that’s not for the faint of heart and the majority of people I talk to don’t have a clear understanding of why I do it. A lot of them think it’s for shallow reasons, like needing to be right or looking for something to be angry about. “YELLING AT PEOPLE ON THE INTERNET …Read More

A Men’s Guide to the Me Too Movement

CN: sexual assault, sexual violence, rape culture, sexism, mention of sex acts, Me Too movement, trauma Warning: Many links in this piece lead to articles that include graphic descriptions of sexual assault, in depth discussions of rape culture, and videos of rape apologists. Some have content warnings, some do not. Click at your own risk. I’ve noticed some men seem a little lost as news of the Me Too movement pours in. Why are so …Read More

Everyone’s A Little Bit Racist, and Sexist, and…

CN: sexism, racism, trans-antagonism, Caitlyn Jenner, use of “phobia” terms to mean bigotry. In the fight for social justice, it’s not just sexism and racism you need to worry about. There are new isms and phobias popping up every day: transphobia, ableism, homophobia, classism, fat-phobia, and Islamophobia. Each of these terms refers to a different form of institutional bias. Unlike individual instances of everyday rudeness or disrespect, institutional bias is different in that it is …Read More

What Is Socialization?

CN: physical abuse, mention of discrimination based on race, body type, and gender, mention of retaliation to sexual assault reporting. Consider the following puzzle: A man and his girlfriend are going to a fancy dinner party, and the man arrives wearing the T-shirt and jeans he’s been wearing all day. His girlfriend is upset, insists he change into something else, messes with his hair etc. The girlfriend is stressed out that her partner would go …Read More

Explaining Privilege Part 3: The Consequences of Scrutiny

Content Note: This article covers specific upsetting examples of oppression in action and includes many links to external websites, including news coverage and videos of police brutality, and first-hand accounts of sexual assault and other trauma. This content note will only cover the topics contained within this article. Be warned many of the external links also contain disturbing material, not all of which come with a content note of their own, so click with caution. …Read More

Explaining Privilege Part 2: The Cycle of Reinforcement

CN: ableism, racism, abuse of minorities, Trump, bullying, poverty, chronic pain In Part 1: WHAT is Privilege, I give a basic definition of privilege, review examples of benefits privileged groups receive and obstacles privileged groups avoid, and talk about how blindspots work and why we have them. Once you know that privilege exists and that you have blindspots, it seems like it should be simple to just stop participating in that system and fix it, …Read More