How Lizzo Helped Me Grow into “My Skin“

CN: mention of cancer, racism, domestic violence, and trauma. I first found out about the singer and performer Lizzo on an early episode of Phoebe Robinson’s podcast, “Sooo Many White Guys.” The podcast is an amazing combo of comedy and digging into the important topics and it features exclusively entertainers and activists from multiple marginalized groups, particularly people of color. As such, I had never heard of most of her guests and it was an …Read More

Understanding the Coping Mechanisms of Victims of Abuse

CN: extensive discussion of the experience of abusive relationships, physical abuse. There are many articles about identifying characteristics of abusive relationships, what being abused feels like, and the aftermath of being abused. But making the decision to leave an abusive relationship is exceedingly difficult, and actually doing it is harder still since doing so safely often takes time and strategic planning. While you are still trapped in the world of abuse, you have to find …Read More

Why I Stopped Taking Anti-Depressants

CN: gaslighting, abuse, money, in-depth discussion of the symptoms and treatment of borderline personality disorder, medication, and mental illness; mention of suicide. As I discussed recently, the use of medication to treat mental illness is the target of a lot of undeserved societal stigma; however, it’s a tool that comes with many challenges in managing side effects, finding the right balance of brain chemistry for you, and for some people, it simply doesn’t work. In …Read More

Yes, Black Girls Matter

Content Note: in depth discussion of the effects of domestic abuse and sexual assault, R Kelly, abuse of minors, and racism; mention of religion. This also piece links to several articles with in depth descriptions of sexual assault, and many do not include content notes. Today’s guest post by Clarity J is a perfect example of what Yopp does best. The R. Kelly story originally peaked about a month and a half ago, but Yopp …Read More

Open Me: How a Kid’s Kind Holiday Gesture Turned My World Upside Down

CN: in-depth discussion of racism including specific examples of macro and microaggressions and of the effects of racism on emotional and mental wellbeing. Mention of Nazis and police brutality. When you publish work submitted by external writers, you wait for the piece that leaps out at you, that you know as soon as you read it that it needs to be read by other people. Clarity’s guest post today looks at how racism is so …Read More

I Can’t Fix Myself But I’m Supposed To

CN: chronic pain, medical neglect, fat-shaming, discussion of specific health issues and their symptoms Today’s guest post is written as a follow up post to Sunflower Punk’s piece, “Broken,” on her blog on The Orbit. The article covers her life-long struggle with chronic pain, living 6 years with an untreated broken ankle, doctors blaming her health problems on her weight, inaccessible housing, and juggling all of those while also raising a kid as a single …Read More

Could It Be My Birth Control?: The Intrauterine Diaries

Today’s guest post is written by a close friend of mine who has asked to remain anonymous. If you know me personally, it’s likely you know who the writer is. She asks that her name not be associated with the article, not because she wants the information to be kept secret but because controlling her online presence is important to her personally and to her career. You’re welcome to contact her privately to discuss the …Read More

What’s It Like to Have Celiac Disease?

CN: chronic illness, discussion of food, digestion issues (non-graphic), weight, and dieting. When I was a kid, my parents were always bartering with me to try to get me to eat protein and veggies. They’d promise me a bit of dessert if I could manage x number bites of my deli meat. I was a very picky eater and rarely finished my plate. My mother would make me meals with five or six different types …Read More

Windows: Snippets from a Mind Struggling with PTSD, Anxiety, and Depression

CN: In depth descriptions of the experience of mental illnesses including PTSD, anxiety, and depression, generally emotionally heavy content, ableism, trauma. I’m clutching a tissue in my hands, the words “I can’t I can’t I can’t” swirling around my head. My best friend has her hand on my knee. She’s carefully offering me solutions to try to get me out of this trap. I say no to every single one. I know it looks like …Read More

A Day in the Life of Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome

CN: chronic pain, detailed descriptions of health issues and treatments, emetophobia, mental illness, food and eating issues. A day living with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome starts with how I slept the night before. Usually, I’m lucky enough to have pain in places that don’t interfere much with my sleep but recently my 5-year old shoulder injury has been bothering me at night. Sleeping on the injured shoulder hurts. If I sleep on the opposite shoulder, I can …Read More